TL;DR: In 7th grade, I asked a librarian for a book on discipline. I couldn’t find what I was looking for because I was asking the wrong question. Thirty years later, on a Friday afternoon when I should have been staring at Slack, I went for a ruck instead… and finally understood why.
The Question That Wouldn’t Die
A few weeks ago, I wrote about standing at that library counter at 12 years old, asking for a book on discipline. I knew something was wrong. I knew I was smart but couldn’t follow through. I knew the word “discipline” was somehow relevant, but I couldn’t articulate what I actually needed.
The librarian didn’t have an answer for me. Neither did the next thirty years of self-help books, productivity systems, therapists, or well-meaning advice-givers who told me to “just use a planner.”
Last Friday, I found the answer. And the irony is almost too perfect.
The Friday Afternoon Heresy
It was 2pm. I work full-time at a corporate job while bootstrapping my startup. The “disciplined” thing to do—by every standard I’d absorbed over three decades—was to sit at my desk until 5pm. Check Slack. Respond to emails. Be present even when there was nothing urgent to be present for.
Instead, I grabbed my weighted backpack and went for a ruck.
And somewhere between mile four and mile five, as my body moved and my mind drifted, the insight landed with the force of a revelation:
I don’t finish things because the “I” who started them doesn’t exist anymore.
Consciousness as Snapshots
Here’s what I’ve learned about how my brain works: I don’t experience consciousness as a continuous stream. I experience it as a series of snapshots—discrete moments of awareness that my brain reconstructs into the illusion of continuity.
Most people have enough working memory buffer that they don’t notice the reconstruction. Their sense of self feels stable across time. They can start a project on Monday, remember why it matters on Thursday, and finish it by Friday with their motivation intact.
I can’t do that.
When I start a project, I’m operating from a specific context, a constellation of insights, motivations, and priorities that exist in that moment. By the time I return to the project, that context is gone. Not faded. Gone. I’m essentially encountering artifacts left by a previous version of myself and deciding whether to inherit his commitments.
This isn’t metaphor. This is phenomenology. This is what it actually feels like.
Why the Books Never Helped
Every book on discipline (and productivity) I ever read—and I’ve read dozens over the years—assumed something about the reader that isn’t true for me:
They assumed a stable self.
“Maintain effort despite waning motivation” presupposes you can access the original motivation. That the person who’s struggling to finish is meaningfully the same person who started. That momentum accumulates across time like interest in a savings account.
For me, it doesn’t. Each snapshot of consciousness starts fresh. The Jon who opens my task manager tomorrow morning isn’t “resuming” work—he’s an entirely new consciousness deciding whether to adopt a stranger’s to-do list.
No wonder “just be more disciplined” never worked. They were giving me instructions for a different operating system.
The Reframe: Discipline for a Federation of Selves
Here’s what I finally understand:
Neurotypical discipline operates on a stable self.
My discipline operates on a federation of selves.
The question isn’t “how do I maintain effort across time?” That question assumes I’m the same person across time. I’m not.
The question is: “How do I build systems that survive consciousness resets?”
This changes everything:
“Finishing what I started” becomes “Deciding whether this still matters to the consciousness I am now”
“Maintaining motivation” becomes “Creating conditions for future-me to want to continue”
“Discipline” becomes “External scaffolding that carries commitment across snapshots”
Some projects aren’t worth finishing. When I return to them and the initiating context is gone, I’m essentially being asked: “Would you start this today, knowing what you know now?” If the answer is no, forcing completion is one consciousness doing another’s homework. That’s not discipline. That’s obligation to a ghost.
Other projects—the ones that matter—regenerate their own “why” each time I encounter them. I don’t have to remember why they matter. The work itself re-ignites meaning.
That’s the filter. That’s the test.
The Rucking Paradox
So here’s the delicious irony of last Friday:
By every neurotypical standard of discipline, I “should” have stayed at my desk. Discipline means doing hard things you don’t want to do. Discipline means showing up even when you’re not feeling it. Discipline means not taking the easy path.
But for my architecture, staying at my desk would have been the opposite of discipline.
Sitting in a context that no longer served me, performing presence for an empty Slack channel, grinding through hours that would produce nothing—that’s not discipline. That’s slavery to someone else’s definition of what showing up looks like.
Taking the ruck was discipline. It was honoring what this snapshot of consciousness actually needed: movement, space, the kind of diffuse processing that lets insights surface. It was creating conditions for the breakthrough that would help all future snapshots of me live better.
Discipline, for me, isn’t forcing the current self to serve past commitments.
Discipline is building infrastructure that serves future selves.
What the Librarian Couldn’t Tell Me
I wish I could go back to that 12-year-old standing at the library counter and tell him:
You’re not looking for discipline. You’re looking for architecture.
Your brain doesn’t work the way the books assume. You’re not lazy. You’re not broken. You’re a different kind of system that needs different kind of infrastructure.
The thing you’re calling “discipline” is something you’ll never find in a book, because the books assume a continuous self. You’re going to have to build your own answer.
And here’s the wild part: thirty years from now, you’ll be building software to help other people like you find theirs.
The Real Discipline
The project I’m building (AIs & Shine) is infrastructure for minds that work differently. AI-powered scaffolding for people whose working memory can’t hold context across time. External systems that survive consciousness resets.
Every day I work on it, I have to re-derive why it matters. And every day, it regenerates meaning. Not because I’m forcing myself to care, but because the work itself is the answer to a question I’ve been asking since 7th grade.
That’s discipline for me. Not forcing. Not grinding. Not white-knuckling through tasks that lost their meaning three consciousness-snapshots ago.
Building systems that let each new version of me inherit the best of what came before.
That’s what the librarian couldn’t point me toward.
That’s what I had to build myself.
If this resonates—if you’ve spent your life looking for discipline in all the wrong places—I’d love to hear from you. What would it mean to stop forcing your architecture to fit someone else’s definition of showing up?
Jon Mick is the founder of AIs & Shine, building AI-powered cognitive scaffolding for neurodivergent minds. He’s tried every planner and journal. His rucksack is his favorite productivity tool.